Here are some common wedding etiquette questions.
Wedding planning can be a very stressful time for newly-engaged couples. Weddings are expensive and involve a lot of people. Couples face a big challenge when planning their wedding. Following proper wedding etiquette can help, however. Etiquette has practical value because it can help make decisions on technicalities, such as the wording of invitations. While some wedding etiquette traditions may feel old-fashioned, some tried-and-true standards are still around for a good reason. Here are some common wedding etiquette questions.
Who Pays for the Wedding?
The tradition used to be that the bride’s parents paid for the wedding. Today, couples rarely follow that rule. In fact, according to recent reports, around half of couples pay for most of their wedding themselves. Parents and other loved ones can contribute in various ways. Some parents still pay for the entire wedding, while others pay for specific elements or services. Others pay for events like the rehearsal dinner or decide not to contribute at all.
Anyone who pays for a wedding cost gets a say in whatever it is they’re paying for. So, for example, if your parents are paying for your wedding cake, you must ensure they’re happy with the baker you choose.
How Do I Ask My Parents to Contribute?
Sometimes, parents want to help you pay for your wedding, but you may need to make the first move. When approaching your parents about this potentially sensitive subject, ask them politely if they could contribute. If they say yes, discuss what areas of the wedding they could pay for or how much they would be able to spend. It’s good to know how much certain wedding services cost so you can give your parents price ranges during your first conversation.
Do I Have to Include Children in the Invitations?
When deciding whether to include children at your wedding, you should make a rule and stick to it. If your invites say, “This will be an adults-only celebration,” don’t make any exceptions. That means even if your cousin begs to bring her little ones.
The only exception is if you have children in your close family, such as your own kids, siblings, nieces, and nephews, and they’re in your wedding party. Inviting those children but saying no to the rest is fine.
When Should I Send Thank You Notes?
You may have heard you have a year after your wedding to write and send your thank-you notes. But you shouldn’t wait that long! Your guests may wonder if you received their gifts or if they got lost in the mail. It is recommended to write your thank-you notes within two or three weeks for gifts you receive before your wedding. After your wedding, there’s more room, but try not to wait more than a month or two.
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